It’s been a sombre week but slowly brightening. Talking to lots of people who knew her definitely helps, as has compiling memories of time spent with her to send to her mother. We are focussing on the positive memories and time shared, rather than the means of her death.
Lives of great men all remind us
We can make our lives sublime,
And, departing, leave behind us
Footprints on the sands of time;
Footprints, that perhaps another,Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Sailing o’er life’s solemn main,
A forlorn and shipwrecked brother,
Seeing, shall take heart again.
My memory was sitting in the lunch room, drinking coffee when we were meant to be planning the week ahead or talking about mechanical engineering principles, sharing chia pudding ( my contribution) or roast beetroot hummus ( her contribution). Sharing food was a real passion for her, I still remember the spicy Korean noodles for lunch one day.
Looking at the bright highlights, like vibrant red poppies on the path this morning as I went for my daily walk, is helping me move forward while paying tribute to the dark moments and thoughts.
Quiet time with cats and crochet is also a great way to slowly absorb the events of the last three weeks, not to mention 2020 as a crazy year of tumultuous events.
One of the benefits of being ( temporarily) unemployed is time to exercise, without the fatigue of working. Last night was a beautiful paddle through sunset , dusk and the moon coming visible on flat calm water, followed by a Halloween sausage sizzle at the club. Focussing on gentle physical activity, swimming, walking, yoga, kayaking, MSGym has been a welcome and relatively cheap distraction from life the last couple of weeks, and reminded me how truly lucky w are here in WA.